We Are Overindexing on Self-Love

In reading a book called the “Mountain is You", I realized and re-affirmed some things:

• True self-love is being able to tell yourself the truth — this includes positive feedback but also negative feedback when your life isn’t running the route you desire.

• We know most self-help theories in concept already, but struggle to enact them due to limiting beliefs we haven’t identified and/or let go of yet.

• In pursuit of the idea of self-love, we often give ourselves too much leeway and end up furthering self-limiting beliefs —> e.g., if I keep avoiding schoolwork due to “taking down time for myself,” I still end up beating myself up due to not finishing something I know I need to finish

Here’s a quote from the book:

“In an effort to ‘love ourselves,’ we try to validate everything about who we are. Yet those warm sentiments never quite seem to stick, only ever temporarily numbing the discomfort. Why don’t they work? Because deep down, we know we are not quite being who we want to be, and until we accept this, we are never going to find peace.”

Some Wednesday food for thought. This week, I’ll be pondering how to turn these refreshed realizations into permanent changes.